A Guy’s Guide to Simple Romantic Gestures
Valentine’s Day isn’t far off, guys. And if you’re like me, being romantic isn’t your strong suit. It’s not from a lack of effort, and it’s not because my heart’s not in it. We all have our shortcomings. Roger Clemens can’t admit he did steroids. Tony Romo can’t win big games. And I’m not very good at being romantic. I’m pretty sure there are plenty of guys who are in the same boat. Maybe we just don’t feel comfortable performing romantic acts. Or we struggle to come up with “the perfect romantic gesture”. Or maybe there’s a fear of being laughed at. Whatever the excuse, we need to put forth the effort, guys. So I’ve decided to come up with a list of simple, romantic gestures that can help romantically challenged men gain a little confidence in their ability to be romantic.
Go out of your way to show you care.
Drive home from work just to see your wife/girlfriend. Tell her you have to go back to work, but you just wanted to see her in person, even just for a moment. This minimal amount of effort can go a long way in the heart and mind of your lady. You could even show you care twice as much, by snatching up a few donuts from the break room before you leave work and bring them "specially for her". Just be sure Barry from accounting hasn't drooled all over them.
Give her a positive thought before you leave for work.
Before you pull out of your driveway, honk to get her attention, then blow your wife/girlfriend a kiss as you leave for work. Hey, if a football player can do it on national T.V., so can you. It’s a minimal act that actually has her doing most of the work (getting up and coming to the door). And if any of your lady neighbors are watching, they’ll be thinking “why doesn’t my man do stuff like that?”. Saying “I love you” in sign language works, too.
Shock her. Show that you’re thoughtful.
Write a note. You don’t have to be a poet or a songwriter to write a few words down on a sticky note or a grocery list pad. Don’t worry, she’s not your high school English teacher, so she isn’t looking for proper grammar or solid sentence structure (just be careful to spell her name right). It doesn’t have to rhyme, and it doesn’t have to be long. If it’s sincere, she’ll keep it forever.
Let her know that you think about her, even when you’re not together.
Next time you’re at the gas station or convenience store, buy her one of those flowers by the cash register. Or pick up her favorite candy. It’s a good thing to let her know you think about her when you’re in your daily routine. Mind your delivery, though. You don’t want to hand her a flower and blurt out the words “I got gas and thought of you”. That could ruin it.
Prove that you actually listen.
This is a tougher one for the slightly more advanced guy, because it requires listening, retaining, and action. But consider it a high risk, high reward move on your part. When you hear your wife/girlfriend say she likes something, get it for her. Example: You’re watching T.V. She sees a commercial for a strawberry-limeade slush. She says “That looks good!”. Remember that – better yet, write it down – and bring one to her the next day. She’ll be immediately impressed, not only with the fact that you actually do listen, but also with the thoughtfulness of your romantic gesture. As an afterthought, you might want to discard any notes you take to aid your memory. If she finds it, this could diminish the reward.